Anxiously waiting for it to fall apart

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25yearsmlc - perhaps the MLC is used too frequently, I have no idea as I am not a psychologist, just a woman looking for answers. Using the MLC label only seems to be a big problem when people use it as an excuse rather than a wake-up call.

Yes, there has been a trend which I accepted in the marriage over the years because I thought things were going to change. I believed him. He always worked afar, but was still emotionally engaged with family. Over the years, we seemed to hit patterns of chaos which would drive us together (birth of children, relocations, health issues). However, when we had many stresses in 2012, rather than face them with me - he lied and emotionally ran away. He completely shut down emotionally on me, the kids, his friends and himself. I waited and blamed myself - now that he has the time, he is slowly coming back to life emotionally - I'm not a psychologist to decide if he is in a MLC, but I DO know that was my wake up call.

I have learned tons thru this process.


So perhaps I should be posting on different board rather than MLC board, but have found a connection to many of the journeys and resources here.