Big blow out today. We got up and started getting ready to go to church. Funny how W still can set foot in there but I try to keep an open mind that it might help. Anyway, she's obviously getting ready very slowly, and she's getting a little more "ready" than usual...pulling out jewelry, full makeup, and 5 minutes AFTER we should have left, she pulls out her curling iron. It's obvious at this point 1) she has no intention of going to church today, and 2) she's got other plans. She told me after church she was going to get a pedicure and run some shopping errands. She's getting waaaay over-rated for those plans. While she was gone, I planned to take D2 to the pool.
Anyway, given the circumstances, I point blank said "tell me you're not seeing him today." She then admitted she was. I told her at this point it's over. Sick of the lies, sick of the deceit, sick of being the doormat. I told her to have fun on her date and headed out with D2 to go see my parents. I felt it was time they knew. I asked when she wanted D2 home. She didn't respond, so I said I'd be home later and was going to my parents.
On the way she texted me asking when I would be home! I used voice text and said "Driving. If you want to talk, call me like an adult." I then called my mom to let her know we were coming. Mom was on her way to my niece's volleyball tournament, so I told her I'd meet her there. Got to the gym, and no calls or texts from W, so now I'm stopped in the parking lot and sent her a text letting her know I was going to the game.
Now I'm in a loud gym with about 12 volleyball games going on and about 200 teenagers laughing and playing volleyball. I watch my niece's first game (took about 30 minutes). D2 is sound asleep on my shoulder the whole time. Game is over, and I look at my phone...15 text messages and 10 missed calls. W is saying I had no business changing plans and not going to my parents. My mom was at the game with me. Implying I was ignoring her calls, she was worried I took D2 and wouldn't bring her back, etc.
I called her back, told her to relax, and stop trying to make a legal case out of this. She proceeds to throw the line she always does..."I don't know if we can save this, you're hurting your chances, etc." I told her she makes me sick. I told her I don't want to save this anymore. I told her it's time I think of ME and our daughter. I told her to grow up and be a mom, not a 20 year old.
She started with the "when are you bringing my daughter home" line, so I said "right now", and went home. I told her that I was going back out. Can't stay here right now, can't stand the sight of her. She says she's going to get a pedicure. So I brought D2 home so she could leave to get a pedicure and go on her date. Nice.
I told her this week we need to talk custody/visitation details and how this will work. I am NOT moving out. She agreed.
Then she asks if I need anything from the store. "No, if I need something, I'll buy it." Then she asks (really) if I want to go to lunch. I simply said "I don't think that's a good idea". Then (really), she says when she comes home, she'll make dinner for us. I said "no thanks".
She left, and I took D2 to the pool. D2 is napping now, and here I am.
I''m done. I'm through trying to save this. And in a strange way, I'm in a good mood. Just wish I didn't have to be here when she gets home.
