KGirl - letting the past go

[Mozza]

Thanks for the update, KGirl. I've been thinking about you lately because I also started the online dating thing, ahead of what most people around here would like (my D can't be earlier than October) but in earnest. The experience is mind-boggling for an old man like me unused to the ways of modern dating.

But what made me think of you is your comment about finding men who want to go on six or more dates before getting to bed. Yes, that is a lot. At the same time, even if guys didn't write the same answer, they could always adapt to your rhythm if they are really interested. And it will weed out those who want a shorter path to bed. My IC basically thinks none of these answers are set in stone. It's not impossible that you'll meet the perfect guy, fall head over heels for each other, and want to be in bed with him by date three. All of this to say: don't put too much wight into this answer, be flexible and, most importantly, meet people because that's the only real way to know if you enjoy each other.

And absolutely under no circumstances should you settle for someone you don't love. "Hell yeah!" what you should say for any love interest. This is the choice of a lifetime. Also, don't be a Nice Girl, and say yes just to be nice or kind. Or because you don't want to hurt anybody's feeling. Turning down people is one of the hardest thing I've to do on this online dating website, but I make a point of doing it and I feel great afterwards. My IC congratulated me on this, saying it was a clear sign of progress.

I really hope you'll keep updating us. You have a great future ahead of you.