When he first took the job, it was to be temporary so we had agreed to a year of commuting. He did come home on a regular basis for the first two years. Things were good. We had discussed at some point me moving to be with him, until he realized there are NO jobs available unless you want to drive an hour away to a larger city.
I have also been with my company for almost 30 years, so I have a very good job and I'm very well respected in the industry. Not that that matters to me, but we were helping two kids through university, so we really needed the income and benefits.
It has just been this past year that I have noticed my H complaining about commuting, how it's not really working, how I do not do my share of the commuting ( I have done some and have met him in other locations frequently) just nothing that I do is quite enough. In addition, I am responsible for all of the maintenance and care of our home. Last year we had a roof problem that forced me to be at home in case there was inclement weather. And I did all of the work getting contractors to fix the roof and all of the damage to the interior of the home. It took a lot of my time.
I'm not trying to push blame away from me, it was just a busy year with things that were happening beyond my control.
So I'm sorry, that was a very long answer to your question. Believe me, I would gladly give up my position to move to be with him, but now I am very hesitant because nothing I do is quite right or enough (and he isn't asking anymore anyway) and I would br giving up many years and great benefits with my current company to make that move.
