You are right Cadet, it isn't about me. That has been the hardest thing for me to get through my head. So used to "making everything better " and taking everything on myself.
Thanks for the reminder. Keep reminding me if I slip again.
He is depressed and has been for sometime. Part of it has to do with changes to his body, fear of getting old and facing the death of his father and the aging of his mother. Lots of guilt for moving away from them.
I'm interested in your statement, he is what I call a vanisher. Can you expand on that? In your opinion, what makes someone a vanisher? Just trying to understand. I think I read a post that was all about trying to get answers- understanding the "why". I know I may never fully understand, b/c I don't think anyone truly understands why we sometimes do crazy things.
Thank you again for the words of wisdom. It will be my affirmation this week.
