Just want to clarify that the only reason I suggested a lawyer at this point, is because OP said he is taking joint family funds to finance his new lifestyle. If that becomes a problem, it would be vital to know what she can and cannot do. Nothing escalates a situation as arguments about money...
Personally, I consulted an attorney because H tried to tell me I had no rights to our home. I also found out that he had actually retained a lawyer months earlier... Many surprises along the way!
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17