As the months have gone by and I have progressed through DB I find myself now in a state of neutrality.
We don't talk. We don't even really look at eachother. My boundaries are in place and she knows it. In effect, we are living separate lives.
She seems happy. She wants to talk and interact but I'm not really interested. I do not think she is as angry with me as before. I see the occasional look of guilt. I should engage her in a more friendly way however. Not to give the impression that I'm breaking detachment, but just to smooth things over.
She has given me alot of time to myself. For the first time she is looking after the kids at home. She still struggles to take them out on her own however.
What detachment has gotten me is a way to deal with her active affair without open warfare. It still wears on me, but not like in the past. Detachment has also slowly taken her out of my life. I am much happier when she is not at home.
