What do you mean by giving up? What would your life look like after giving up?

If you mean you're feeling suicidal ask for help right now.

If you mean you're giving up on your M, depending on what you'd do after that decision it might not be all bad. There's not much difference between giving up and detachment if you take healthy steps afterwards that aren't controlling or limiting of the future.

Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15