Mighty, honestly, I could not care less about him or her. I care about you.
Please do not misunderstand me. I get why you said it. I get that it felt good. I am glad if it moves you forward in some way.
My concern is that you think you took back your power, when you really gave it to her.
And that keeps you in all of this...because now you have all of this cr@p to deal with.
Listen, I understand completey your feelings. I really do. But you didnt get in her head the way you think you did. She isnt thinking ...oh man, I am a homewrecker. She is thinking..oh man, now I know why he left her. It isnt true. Not at all..but thats the spin she is taking. Trust me on that.
When I ran into my xh's ow..you can be sure I paid her as$ no mind. It drove her craaaaaazzzzy. I walked with my head held high and looked at her like she was the dirt on the bottom of my shoe...cuz she was.
She even said to my xh at one point, "Man, Ur looks so confident and happy." And THAT made my day because she wasnt getting one freakin ounce more of me.
Sweetie, you said what you did. You cant unsay it. I get why you did. If it helps you, great.
But you are still so far in their heads, that I worry about you. I know it hurts deep. I am so sorry it does.
