Have you thought about what would be necessary to get the M back on track again? Have you read about the transparency plan? I talked a little about this in one of my threads when I was discussing not letting the WW come back too easily.
Yes, I have. She needs to acknowledge the pain that she caused. Not only to me, but my kids, her kids, and the grandchildren. Counseling is a must. Definitely MC and I would hope IC, although that has to come from her. Divorce proceedings must be halted. I would advocate continuing to live separately for a period of time, until we see how things are going. Finally, trust. Transparency would be essential, as would the necessity of not throwing it back in her face. It would take a lot of work. I realize that if these steps are not taken, there is a high likelihood that we are right back at this juncture in the future.
I'm willing to put in the hard work required. It remains to be seen if she is.
Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15
