NLT - sounds like your h is a slow burn MLCer. This divorce things is awful, and the non-division of the assets suggests that he is both trying to stay invovled and keep control. My xh wanted most everything and was most put out when even his lawyer explained it didn't work like that!!
I had much the same convos with added spewing and no apologies. Sadly it is par for the course. Our divorce took 2 years in total, and apart from the initial delay while I tried to get xh to mediation, it was entirely down to him. A fact which he would deny if you pulled his teeth - and believe me there were times when I dearly wanted to.
Notice the language - 'Sorry if I misunderstood you'. That isn't an an apology. An apology is 'Sorry that . . ' Different mindset.
Hard though it is I have come to the view we are better of with these people out of ourlives, hearts and heads, although after a long and loving marriage I know that it is easier said than done.
I am happier now that I no longer have my xh rattling around in my head (mostly) Occasionally he puts in a guest appearanceband like the nasty garden gnomes in Harry Potter I have to eject him.
