I'm not proud of myself. I go around these boards telling people how all of this is unattractive, that they have to be strong, put up an act. I'm put to the test once in months and I can't keep it together. I didn't DB last night. Oh, I know: no single act can sink my case. But I also know that you can't accumulate strikes or goals against and hope to win the game. I really wish I didn't slip last night.
I need to detach but no amount of GALing seems to work when she's in front of me. It's like Superman lifting weights to protect against kryptonite.
I dunno Mozza, I'm in total agreement with you about the advisability of projecting strength but I also think there is a time and place for everything and I don't think there's any issue with showing sentiment at your child's event. I wouldn't worry about that one too much.
And as to her being your kryptonite - I don't know that detachment is a 24/7 proposition either (until years have gone by, I would guess). I see STBX for a grand total of maybe 10 minutes a week - sometimes less. When he's not around, I'm fine and reasonably content with life. But it's still painful to actually see him and be reminded of all that has changed. And possibly because these interactions are so infrequent - they feel more intense. Of course- I don't desire my STBX and while I don't want to be melodramatic - I'm actually a little repulsed by him at the moment - so that probably makes our interactions less emotionally taxing than yours.
