I don't disagree with you, nick. It was definitely NOT a good idea, but it happened nonetheless. What I am hoping for now is some advice as to what next...
Ok .. 2x4 time
Thing is Kramer .. you have been here what .. 5 months .. you should and I think do know better, you know what happened was not good, but you caved and went after your needs regardless. So now your W knows .. because you have shown her ... I can have my A, do as I wish ... flirt a touch with my LBH ... sex if I must .. just to make sure he is where I left him, now I can go back and patch things up with OM and continue this .... its a big set back from where I sit.
As far as what to do next ... ok what is done is done right?
First off ... call and get a STD screening done ... think about it. You now have had sex with OM and everyone he has been with ... that should upset you a bit.
Second .. I would think its time for some mirror talk.. what do you want out of this, save the M? You may have to really set some boundaries with your WAW because she seems to be getting what she wants and needs at your expense.
Third ... I'd go dark, let her know that that night was a mistake, has brought up some issues and feelings and you need to figure out what YOU want out of life, your M, and start planning for YOUR future. Of she would like to be a part of that .. great ... but there needs to be some ground rules.
