Hi Kramer, I read your post above and thought - uh o - bad idea...

Just because OM is still on the scene somewhere and your W doesn't sound as though she has woken up. Yes, you may have enjoyed it - but do you really want to become OM to her OM?

I think the part of you that is all happy is the part that has craved the closeness that has been missing recently. But IMHO, there's a price to pay for that. And the price is that you become part of the infidelity web again. In my sitch, I said to my H - that web - that's not for me and that's not what I want in my life. I wont be part of it. And I don't regret that. For sure enough contact with OW has lingered on and off and on and off.....for many months now. And to be part of that is just painful.

As to what next? Well, I would place your expectations at zero, wait for the pull back and carry on DBing...

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus