Old dog seeks new trick 14

[Sotto]

Hi OD, my H didn't acknowledge my birthday at all last November. Or our anniversary last August. That was horrible too...

I can understand your anger RD. I haven't been that angry in my sitch, but I can understand people being so angry. But I think there's a lot of blame in your anger too - towards her and towards him. I don't think that's helpful, because you (we) all had a part to play in how things became. You aren't responsible for your W choosing to have an A, but you are partly responsible for the state of your M and thus the pre-existing conditions that paved the way towards an A.

Also, in terms of OM. Fact is, there's always 'someone' out there who will become involved with a S who is seeking to have an A. My H went out on 'dates' with two other women before his A with OW started. I think once they have become wayward, there's likely no stopping things until they work themselves through.

IMHO, you need to take responsibility for your anger and find a way through it. Find a way to peace and acceptance of 'what is' - even though you don't like it. Not just throw out these comments - I hate her & he's a ***. Ultimately, it could cost you any chance of reconciling and may impact on your R with your sons too.

How is your work with your IC going in this area??