Ralphy, there are a number of resources on this site and on the web regarding Boundaries. These are going to serve you well.
I encourage you to please read these first...before you 'lay down any laws'...because that will get you nowhere but PO'd. As Sandi and others have written (and i paraphrase) think of your WW as a rebellious teen, you lay down rules they will only try to break them.
Setting boundaries is different, they are to protect you and your daughter. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE read those threads that Cadet has posted for you. this is SOOOOOOO confusing and troubling but you can definitely do this!!!
