I'm not a vet as you know and I do hope one looks in on you at some point. FWIW I think you did very well. Here are the things I know about a WW.
They re write history. What you remember as the past isn't how she will describe it. this is why the validating helps. What ever you do don't argue with her about it. That may come in time but not now.
They are driven by emotion. That means any logic is out of the window.
Forget using words to persuade her. Use actions instead.
The 180 concept can be difficult to implement. Subtle and consistent at the start works best. Big changes will only be seen as fake and she will baulk at them. And you have to mean it as well. If she smells fakery it will only set you back.
Keep posting.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
