From experience a bit. Don't read into what is happening just go with the flow, and stay as happy and detached as possible. It seems you are doing a lot of things well, and just need to stay on course. My W would ask for some of the same things as far as rubbing or what not, but in the end it was meant nothing. Saying that though, you have to do what you feel comfortable with. If you can do what you want and not get to attached to the emotions do it. If it gets to be a problem for you to handle step back and reassess the stich. Just keep up the work. It's never really a right or wrong, it's what do you really want? What can you do to be the real you that would make yourself happy.
