Thank you for your reply Bob.

I really hope that someday I can get to a point where I can forgive H and have compassion for him, but today all I can think about is the fact that he wasn't mature enough to stick this out, despite promising "for better or for worse" and to remain faithful. Instead of keeping those promises, he just did whatever he wanted without caring about the consequences.

I see all the people on these boards standing for their marriages regardless of what the other person may have done and I just don't understand why everyone isn't like us...believing in the vows we took and doing whatever we need to do to fix whatever is broken. I'm angry that H is not one of those people. I'm angry that he can just move on (and away) just like that. I'm angry because I feel like I was fooled into marrying someone totally opposite from the person I thought he was.


Me:36 H: 29
T: 4 years
M: 2 years
No kids
In-house sep 10/4/14
H moved out 1/2/15
Talk of D 4/9/15

"She's standing on a line between giving up and seeing how much more she can take" John Mayer