Thank you Raliced. I'm done. I'm out. It's over. My H just came into our bedroom and woke me up and said he was going to leave at (1230 am). Said he'd try to be around in the evening for the boys, but his friend got some bad news today and he was going to be with her, take the day off tomorrrow. I said what do you mean are you leaving for good?
He said doctors told her to take the next year off and she was going to have chemo and radical double mastectomy and he was not going to abandon her. I broke down and started sobbing because it hurts. He told me i was selfish and to get over it. I cannot believe all the hateful things he said to me. He said he didnt care about me and if i was hurt, I am a bitch and he wasted 23 years with me. Then he proceeded to text her about me and she ran me down and passed her judgement on our marriage. I asked him to please stop that I didn't want this to be our legacy after 22 years and saying things that hurt and we could never take back.
He is mad that I told our kids says it was none of their business but thank God I did. They have at least had a week to prepare for this. I still can't believe the things that came out of his mouth. He was so cold and so cruel, completely unable to understand my pain.
Tomorrow I will finish gathering the info needed to file for divorce and call the lawyer,
I would appreciete any advice on how to hold things together for myself and my family. How do I deal with him popping in and out. Lawyers say in our state cant force him to move out. May not happen until he gets a lawyer and they advise him to leave. Any way to get him to stop being such an [censored] other than to totally refuse to talk to him. I know he is mentally ill and probably feeling guilty so spewing hate to make himself feel better. It still hurts to think someone I loved and tried so hard to have a good marriage with could come to this. I'm trying to hold it together and not let him destroy my self esteem.
