Advice Welcome, separating and W moving out soon..

[jedi]

However, the time now isn't to focus and look for that happening. You would be gaining expectations and trying to look for those things happening. You are going to be so desperate to see those things happen you will almost make them up from nothing at all.

This is starting to make sense to me now. Over lunch today I was discussing some recent interactions with my W and the situation overall and with a friend who also more or less said the same thing. I'm starting to finally see where I am in this whole process.

I keep going to back to timing here keeping me from realizing this stuff. W asked tonight about a few things she wanted to take when she moves out, and while amicable I felt the anger start to swell in the background.

I thought I was already to the point of acceptance here, but I'm thinking now it's more like I rapidly cycled through the 5 stages over a period of weeks immediately after BD, and now I'm starting over on a much slower path through these.