Evan, Wow. For her to tell you that your changes are amazing, that she feels so safe with you, all of this is wonderful progress. And it is so great that you are able to talk with her about your relationship together.
Quote: So whats stopping them coming back - fear, lack of trust, more of the same, guilt, pride....or all of the above??
WAS can be a confusing breed indeed. I think its probably all of the above, though everbody's sitch is different. My W has always been the kind of person who once she makes up her mind, she's full speed ahead, so I think what we're going through now is difficult for her. My wife has told me she isn't entirely sure where her life is headed right now, she has told me she likes the changes I've made, and she seems more and more interested in me, but I think she may very well be uncomfortable with the idea of reversing such a big decision. I'm sure she wants to be able to trust my changes, but I think she feels she needs more time.
I think you're doing really well, and it encourages me to keep going.
