Make Love in the Middle of a Warzone

[Huddy]

No way Smoothy. You don't want that b**** anywhere near, even if you're not there anymore.

[Pyrite]

morning mate,

fogged over. she was a soft target and easy maintenance (as in maintaining the lie). she doesn't think and doesn't want to think two steps ahead, even one. i'm over it. IF she came knockin' I would consider it. I can only see me really taking it on for the sake of my family.

Zeus posted about the process his DB coach quoted him. 1. BD, M over 2. Friends 3. ..........

OK every sitch maybe different. But I can't even see friends. Sure I can let go of the anger and forgive her (one day), but I can't see me actively wanting to be friends with this person. The foremost quality that I was attracted to 12 years ago was her pure, beautiful, heart. Well now it is in my face that she would not only hurt a fly, but destroy her family, tear me down etc. In terms of friends, I have friends with whom I can have much more stimulating conversation, they dont lie to me, stab me in the back.

So looks like I am gonna be one of those guys. I hope when we settle the property I can settle into this role and build towards a better future. One day at a time. Focus and appreciate the now. Dont waste time dwelling on the past and predicting the future. Especially HER future. This is what I should write on a rubber band and snap on my neck everytime I stray.

thanks guys

[Huddy]

Hi Py

Friends? After she's had an affair. There is a whole lot of rebuilding to go on before that happens.

Have a great evening.

[Pyrite]

Hey,

I decided to come back over here to rant.

I feel like I am in a holding pattern. The rest of my life hasn't started yet. We are still in this post-BD hazy, shared family house week-in, week-out thing. It makes things seem really rushed as well. Not to mention that I can't sleep soundly in my own bed knowhingthat W and OM have most likely been ****ing in here. I usually sleep with d4 (king size single- best investment i ever made).

[Huddy]

Hi Pyrite

Yeah, I got all our family double beds (ours is a king+, even though I'm not in it). I think you have to draw a boundary about the beds. That's SO DISRESPECTFUL.

Does OM have a W or SO?

[Smothy]

((((Pyrite))))

Let it out then let it go! X

[NDY]

Hey,

I decided to come back over here to rant.

I feel like I am in a holding pattern. The rest of my life hasn't started yet. We are still in this post-BD hazy, shared family house week-in, week-out thing. It makes things seem really rushed as well. Not to mention that I can't sleep soundly in my own bed knowhingthat W and OM have most likely been ****ing in here. I usually sleep with d4 (king size single- best investment i ever made).

That my friend is harsh. I don't think I could sleep in the same bed if I'm honest.

[Pyrite]

Huddy, I can't enforce any boundaries. She absolutely refuses to NOT include OM in her life and the girls however she wants. Everyone has pointed out to her that this is wrong on so many levels - since day 1. But she just digs her heels in.

[Pyrite]

He apparently has GF in Ukraine. This was used by W as early proof that no R exists b/n them. WTF? You have a family right here W. He has a 2year R with 22 year old girl thousands of mile away.

[Pyrite]

Thanks all. I feel better just saying it out loud (even virtual like).

Her midweek visit with kids. Get to see her tonight when she drops them off. Hooray.

It hurts that she has no respect me for me a husband, but she has no respect for me as a human being - which HAS made me feel worthless. She used to be so respectful of everyone, all the time, to the extreme (which was unhealthy). Now she has kicked back 1000% and I get to wear it all. just make me feel that little bit more special than what I did after being cheated on, lied to and rejected. Thanks W.

Friday to Sunday is always good. Sunday afternoon d4 starts getting sad because back with her Mum Monday. She has made more comments again this week implying that she realises Mum has replaced me but with Dad we spend time together wit just us, because Dad doesn't have a friend .

I have to say that even though I sort of had just as much to do with my kids before, I have freedom now to parent the way I want. I do have more time with little one and especially one-one time in the mornings which I never had before because of scheduling.

anyway, thanks again guys, just for listening.