Work is going well - physically hard going but that cuts out having to go to the gym
Today h rang - I probably did everything not to do DB wise, but it seemed to go ok.
He said he has wanted to contact me so many times but felt it wrong of him after all the pain and hurt he has put me through. He asked why I don't contact him .....sticky moment .... so I just said that I did not think it was appropriate while he was with ow.
He told me it was his last day at work, that he starts his new job next week. Seems happier about the change.
THEN - wow wow - he has decided to end it with ow. He is tied in with her until July and then he can take himself of the rental lease, but until then he cant afford to rent somewhere else and still pay half the rent of his current place. Turns out ( go figure ha ha) that she is really damaged. She has smashed things, cut herself and threatened to call the police saying it was him, she has overdosed after an argument, she is possessive (that's why she did not like the boys or him talking to me) and generally nutso.
He said he did not go through the whole process of leaving me for freedom to find himself, to then hook up with a crazy women that has tied him down! Lightbulb duh!!!
Then he asked about me: this is where I prob did not do too well, but he asked so many questions I could not be elusive all the time. So I talked about my job and what I do. He asked about my life and how I am, he apologized and said he regrets how he left (that leaving is still what he needed to do), that he feels that perhaps he should have tried first; counselling etc, but feels that really it probably would not have changed anything, maybe just created more hurt and the outcome of us never talking again.
He told me he has grown a beard and got a motorbike (something I used to never like) so I said "Cool" - which he was surprised at He also talked about his life, said that he he has not told anyone about ow overdose so please don't repeat it - he just needed to tell someone.
He said he can tell I have changed in myself and asked if we can have more contact - just as friends - so I said, I am ok with that as long as there is no ow on scene, to which he said he does not intend looking for anyone else now.
I mentioned that I am happy for him to come and stay if he wants to visit s18 and if he is not comfortable with me being around (which I would most likely be at work anyway) I can go and stay elsewhere for the weekend - to which he replied "I can't come up yet as she wouldn't like it, and I certainly would not want you to stay elsewhere, its your home. I hope that we can be ok around each other, I would like that".
1 1/2 hrs later (he was at work lol) I had to finish the call as I had to go to work - but we left it that we would contact more.
I know I know - this means nothing - zero expectations and all that. But it was nice to have him human again for a short while.
