Met the WAW for a coffee today....some of her comments...

1. 'your new haircut looks good...'
2. 'I think we had to break this relationship to put it together properly...'
3. 'I know the OM isn't the answer...'
4. 'I understood what the C said but it's going to take time(re breaking up with OM)...'
5. 'We have to live apart for the moment' (to her gmother)
6. A friend told her that a crisis like this usually prepares you for something grander (what the hell does this mean?)
7. 'The changes in you are amazing'
8. 'I can't believe our relationship now'
9. 'I feel so safe with you'


My question. I know according to the DB laws I shouldn't be talking relationship talk but in our 'old' relationship I NEVER wanted to talk about us. So in a way this is a huge 180 for me - but I still play it safe - no blame, pressure, plenty of empathising. Ditto for being a bit teary - I know according to DB laws I should be HAPPY HAPPY - but again this is a HUGE 180 for me because I NEVER let her see me cry beforehand - she even told me she 'likes my tears'.

So whats stopping them coming back - fear, lack of trust, more of the same, guilt, pride....or all of the above??

Evan