I am wondering why I am trying to hold the family together for the children when H seems to be focused on making decisions which would not take in to account the kids needs.

I understand if he wants to divorce me, but it hurts so much to see how he is overlooking and excluding the kids. Eldest daughter said she feels like dad has never been there for her most of her life (she's right.). Why am I trying to be the glue when he makes no effort to make the children/family a priority in his life. What am I holding together?

Last edited by dejavu2; 05/20/15 07:55 PM.
H: 48 Me: 47
Married: 19 yrs T: 20 yrs
2 teen-Ds and S
H-MLC (started 2012) and H-Unemployed (11/2014)
D-Bomb: 2/2015
H left country but hasn't moved out: 7/2015
I filed: 7/2015