Went to a new counsellor tonight and she told my WAW that she would have to end the affair if she wanted to work on things with me. WAW broke down and said she needed to think about this. Then she admitted how much she had hurt me, betrayed me and knew I had lost trust in her - stuff I've NEVER heard from her before. When the counsellor left the room she said to me 'I never realised it was an affair' (this because she started PHYSICAL affair after we separated - go figure). Thought she was going to bail from session at any minute but stayed till the end and wants to go next week. When we got home I asked if she was OK with everything and she said yes - but it would take some time to break with OM -she wants me to print out some info on affairs for her to read. Then she says how nice it is at our home (she has moved out), says she knows how tough this has been on me and says that sometimes you have to break things to mend them agsin. We finished with BIG hug and kiss.
So....still taking things cautiously but feel like have taken a BIG baby step. Not getting over excited (hard as is)and will keep 'Acting As If' - because this has performed MIRACLES for me.
Hang in there everyone and keep DBing. Cheers Evan
