OM and his wife still live together so she is in a better position to snoop herself. Hopefully any information you share will just clue her in on where to look herself and she can "bust" OM using her own intel.
It's a good sign that OM denied it. That means he still plans to stay married and lie (as long as he can) to his wife versus just coming out with it and saying "I'm in love,d it just happened and we need to divorce so I can be with my schmoopy soulmate".
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!