Here is the next question, when there are advances from wife, do I embrace these or figure a way to decline. I am not going to lie to you and say that any of these things are unpleasant. When wife asks to snuggle in the AM, or just pops into the shower with me, or wants to sit down and talk and actually ask me about MY day...these are things that i desire very much (and i guess she knows that doesn't she).
I would like to think that i could accept these things and not let them affect my emotions, but that would be BS more times than not right now.
