You are not wasting everyone's time! You certainly are not the only one who has trouble staying objective about their stitch.

Cadet is right, I wanted you to see that you let go of the rope. Also, think about that tug-of-war game, and the reaction of your opponents during all that tugging of the rope. The harder you pull them toward the line, the harder they dig their heels in the dirt and resist. In every game I have personally seen,as soon as the winning team pulled their opponents over the line......guess what they did? They immediately dropped the rope. They did not continue to hold it. They didn't examine each player to see their reactions, or stand around and interview each one to see how their opponents felt about the fact the rope was dropped. They don't stand around and watch.....they move on.

Here's the interesting thing about DTR. When the LBS suddenly (without any announcements or warnings) just lets go of the emotional rope and drops it at his feet, it is like a jolt to the WW. She will nearly fall on her face b/c she's not expecting no resistance from him. She may or may not have an initial anger about it, but usually she is puzzled and distracted by what he's doing. So then she will start doing things to get his attention again, b/c she wants him to pick up that darn rope and start pulling. She wants him to be affected by her! If he will just leave it alone, it works in his favor.....b/c a WW knows when he really has dropped it. It is very effective, and has a good chance of drawing her toward him b/c she's interested. Getting him interested in her becomes a challenge she will usually take every time. Crazy, huh?

You have to do it for real, not just a gimmick to get her back. B/c if it's not real, you'll be looking back to see if she's watching you. And if she sees you looking back......the whole thing is blown. "Hey, did you notice I dropped that rope? How do you feel about it? Want to talk it over? Want to know what to do so I'll pick it up again?" crazy None of that kind of stuff.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!