Raliced - The Magnificent Seventh

[Mozza]

I agree with everything you wrote. I'm also concerned about the impact of D and I've a very hard time believing that it's just as good as M. It makes no sense to me, as if this is all just random associations of people. I'm also hurt to hear that it doesn't make a difference to my kids that I'm not there half the time, that they get either half the parenting or the supervision of another "father figure" than me, with my love, and it's all the same. Then again, it's my emotions talking. The same emotions that want to tell WW: "You can't leave, look at the research!" The emotions that want to win the D vs M argument, as if this is an argument.

Can you remind me why you think STBX left? For most of us here, I feel like our issues appear between the lines of our writing (me especially...), but for you, I'll admit that I'm stumped. You seem so even keeled, rational, generous, intelligent, a good mom. I haven't followed your sitch from the beginning and I went back a little, but I couldn't find this kind of summary. I noticed that you were thinking too much about the "whys" earlier and I don't want to send you down that dangerous road, so feel free to skip this question if you think it could cause you harm.