I am doing very good about concentrating on myself and not wondering about what H means, says etc. Every time I start to wonder or question something he says or does I STOP thanks to advice from 25years! It has done wonders. I still have a ways to go but I am getting much better and I feel better.
I trust that what he is doing is what he needs to do for himself and I do try hard not to judge sometimes I feel the less I know the better actually.