Thank you ALL for your input. I know that I am too close to this to be objective. I also know that I have not been honest with myself about Stopping trying to improve marriage.
What is next, then? I will start planning different activities for me without wife or kids...This should be a whole lot easier once soccer season is over (last week had practices for two teams four nights and had Four games on Saturday). I can also start back working on the basement again, I really, really want that project done.
There was a chapter in codependent no more about starting a love affair with myself...that warrants a good reread....well maybe the whole book
I feel like I am running around in circles wasting everyone's time...sorry all.
