Thanks to each of you for your sound advice. I've always been worried about her predisposition to alcohol. It's so hard to tell when they are in the "Partying" years.
She was not so snobby after work. We talked for a bit. She is always worried about $. She pays a lot in rent. Now her brakes are shot. Needs new tires too. So I mentioned maybe she needs a new car.
She had thought she didn't want to look after Ryan this winter as it so disrupts her life - staying at my house. But it also helps pay her bills. So I suggested maybe that would help her pay for a new car. And with zero percent financing & lower payments - it might work for her.
So I suggested she check out cars online & it created a pleasant diversion for her. Hopefully she & I can go out tonight to look at a few & enjoy some dinner.
Kind of a weird way to help her get through this but Josh drove her car the other day when we picked her up & he said it was in terrible shape. Strange as it's an 07 - not that old. But after you pay for tires & brakes - you could have made a year of car payments.
One day at a time. She was also very stressed on the job yesterday. She had 10 times the night deposits they usually get (holiday weekend in our tourist town) & dealt with dozens of customers. She thought she wasn't doing a good job & that added to her lunchtime meltdown. But at the end of the day - her supervisor came to her & told her she did awesome. (She did not know about the breakup) so that's really helped her. Amazing what some encouragement can do.
I'm sure her BF has good intentions of getting better. Only time can tell. If not - he has a rough life ahead. I just don't want her in it.
