We are over, now what?

[Tulo]

As for this, I do think it's a big deal, but agree not to bring it up.

H has a one night stand with a female and essentially agrees to break it off.

At this point whether they get physical is just semantics.

HOWEVER...at this point you get no voice in his behavior. You don't control him.

"I'm going to do something else until they scream themselves out". That's all there is to do.

Hi Zeus,

How great to hear from you! Have read some of your previous message several times over when I'm about to loose it..

Many valid points as per usual. And you are right, I have no say in what he does, we are over and as you say, he can engage with an entire football team if he wants to, and all I can do is absolutely nothing.

The one night stand was before our R and I don't think (when I'm a bit more lucid than before) that he's into her. He has said that he isn't, bit I'm well aware of the possibility that it can be a lie.

I'm so with you on the betrayal of him discussing our R with her, and that hurts so much, because he said to me that she had said that "he needs to follow his heart" etc etc and obviously she would say that.

I will keep the NC and if he calls this weekend and asks about it I'm not even sure if I should pick up. I had said I would call, but feel to hurt now to do that. Do you agree that not calling even if I said I would is correct?
Should I pick up if he does?

I think I'm going to stay off FB until half marathon is over, all this mess is making me weak (for real) in my knees and that is no way to get through 21 K..

Dear Zeus, thanks again! Feel bloody lost at the moment and this really helps!
Hug!