My H and I have MC appt today and I am nervous. He wanted this, but I did tell him if that was going to be an hour of us bashing each other then lets forget it or if this is going to be how to work on our marriage then I am in. So I made the appt. The reason why I am so nervous about our session today is because we both took this compatibility test and I am scared she is going to say we are not compatible. He asked me what would I do if she said that and I told him that I was still working on the marriage because someone is not going to tell me that I am not compatible with someone else. I asked him what he would do and he said he would cross that bridge when it happens. I told him if he truly wanted a divorce then grab his ba11$ and tell me and he said that he did not want a divorce. But in my gut I don't believe him. I did send him an article that I found in a Psychology Today magazine about compatibility. I'm not sure if he read it but this is what is said:
Compatibility does not hinge on some personal inventory of traits. Compatibility isn't something you have. It's something you make. It's a process, one that you negotiate as you go along. Again and again. It's a disposition, an attitude, a willingness to work
My H is having knee surgery tomorrow and he is planning to stay at home because I will be taking him to surgery. I told him after surgery he had two options, he could stay at the house and I can take care of him there or I can stay with him at his place. He said he preferred to stay at his place because we had stairs, which I agreed with him. However, he told me that he appreciate me wanting to care for him but he would be okay. And I left at that.
