H could really get in touch with OW at any time in the future if he wants to... I'm hoping he won't want to. But I don't see how I can react to thoughts and intentions he has - my boundaries are all in response to actions.
The phone issue has been cleared up since I posted last - he willingly came clean when asked. It felt like progress.
He says he has already ended it and doesn't want to stir things up by sending her an e-mail. Knowing H, it's a typical reaction. He does not like to rock the boat. I think I'm going to let the counselor take the lead on this, she knows that he has met 2 out of the 3 requirements I had. Since he feels that I have been controlling in the M, I don't think it's a good idea to push the issue as long as he states he is working to save the M.
Does that make sense?
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
But I don't see how I can react to thoughts and intentions he has - my boundaries are all in response to actions. 