if it's too late why is he still here?

[lost18]

Thanks Zues, I've had one session and have session #2 scheduled Thurs.

I totally agree with you, something needs to change.

Today we took my car to the shop (again) and he asked if I had any plans after because he wanted to go to the marine store to get something for the boat. They didn't have what he wanted in stock so we ended up having to go to a different store, about an hour drive, to get it.

While we were there we got a call about the car and the estimated $2500 it's going to cost to fix it...ouch! He was pretty bummed as it is going to change plans on his jeep and the work he wants to do on our place up north.

We went to lunch before we came home so we spent a good part of the day together. While we were driving I wanted to reach out and hold his hand or put my hand on his leg like I used to...but I can't, because that's not what he wants from me (right now).

This is where I need change, this could have been a day 5 years ago, except maybe I would have had more to say about the amount of $$ he spent (before we got the news on my car) or I would have been more demanding (for lack of a better word) and wanted to go to more stores "since we're here." And of course he went to bed in a separate room....