At no time has W ever indicated she wants my help, just so that part is clear.
I just don't want it to come across as "hey look at me, I have a life and will be busy while you move out", but also want to be sure she has a plan in place for moving a few of the larger items.
If she didn't ask for your help, why do you assume you need to be there to help?
Why don't you want to come across as those things?
Shes leaving you, you don't need to ensure she has a plan in place to take care of the larger items, shes capable of figuring it out herself. That's not your responsibility at all.
Something else from your first posts I want to comment on. As Zues stated, you seem to be making a case for why this isn't happening. One point being reasons shes still cares for you or loves you. A sad fact you will come to realize is that her love, real or not, will not save your marriage. Marriage requires more than just love to survive.
I was in denial for a long time and thought there was no way me and W would not end up together. That she had to have space, take her path, grow as an individual, but in the end we would come back into a better M.
In my mind I believed love can never fully die, and because our love was real, it would bring us back together. This just isn't how it works. While I still have hope and faith we will end up in a new M, I also accept the possibility we will never be together again. Life is just too complicated to say for sure what will happen either way.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
