Quick update
Almost done reading DB.
W wanted to talk a little after dinner.
Asked how I was , said I am good.
Asked what I felt about our situation, I just said I am working on being happy.
Also said this situation is difficult for everyone.
She did say she needs some space to figure out what she wants.
Asked me if I wanted her to move out, I said that is your decision to make.
Said she feels trapped at home in the basement, I said I understand how that feels( i exiled myself down there last fall for a few days so yes I do know how it feels)
I was a validating machine, I wasn't reactionary, I let her finish speaking each time, I did not show emotions/ stayed neutral.
She kind of thought out loud if I had had enough and was done with her.
I did not say anything,just smiled politely.
Inside I'm screaming come back to me!
She might go stay at my brothers house while he is out of town and offer to pay rent so she can clear her head.
Said she can't go stay with her BFF ( I'm glad because I think she has offered the wrong kind of support/has her own long list of men problems)
Detaching and GALing is working, has her thinking of things.
I am seeing small minute changes I think
Time will tell.
My DBing continues


Me 44
Her 33
T 14 M 7
D 7
S 5
First bomb July 2014
Second bomb May 2015