Advice Welcome, separating and W moving out soon..

[jedi]

Question I'm contemplating right now, if anyone has any thoughts:

Previous to this past weekend, I've been telling W I would gladly help her move as needed (you know, being that great friend). I've since made mention that I'm not sure I can do it (emotionally), and also realized and made clear to her that I've realized that I've almost been pushy about it and would make no further mention of it. At no time has W ever indicated she wants my help, just so that part is clear.

As of today, I've now made plans to be gone the afternoon she is moving. I have no idea when she plans to actually start other than "after lunch".

Do I tell her I am going to be gone now up front in the odd, small case she is in fact thinking she needs the help, or just let it all be until she indicates what time she will be here to pack up the truck and if it overlaps I say cool, I'll be gone anyway?

I just don't want it to come across as "hey look at me, I have a life and will be busy while you move out", but also want to be sure she has a plan in place for moving a few of the larger items.