Rip,
I think I would have probably responded along the lines of her being free to dress anyway she likes. In regards to the other stuff, just be the man of steel and try to not let it move you.

Believe it or not, my STBX did some of the same junk. Pretty warped stuff. She will get real confused and curious when you pay no mind.

Me:35 W:30
D:4 S:1
Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA
In House Separation: 01/14/15
W moves out: 04/05/15
I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15
W serves D papers: 06/19/15
Mediation: 09/16/15
D final: 12/01/15