Awakening

[tonibertha]

Hi everyone,

I haven't been on here for a while, but I really need help with my marriage.

Long long story short, my H and I moved back in together 2 months ago after being separated for over 3 years.

I'm at a point where I'm considering splitting up again, and I want to save my marriage if I can, but I don't know if that's possible.

My H has probably slept at home 5 times in the last month (only once on our bed). I don't know where he sleeps the rest of the time.

Basically, my H's parents flew in a month ago for an operation for his dad. Unfortunately, his dad had a heart attack and pulmonary embolism before he could have the operation, and has been in hospital since. H's excuse for his current behaviour is that his head isn't right atm.

However I suspect he's either cheating again (he swears he isn't, but is a constant liar) or angry that I made him contribute to the bills this month (he contributed one - third, although he earns more than me). He doesn't think he should contribute as he says he is paying for his mums hotel (I'm not sure I believe him, as she talks as tho she pays, can't ask her outright).

Anyway, was considering packing a box tonight to move away for at least 30 days, just to jolt him, but I would really appreciate your advice. I'm currently giving him the silent Treatment (which I hate), but it has no effect as he only comes home when he's sure I'm out, meaning he's either taken annual leave or is calling in sick sick.

Family means everything to me, and I really want to support him in coping with his dad's illness, but he's completely pushed me away.