Put one foot in front of the other

[Elly4]

Thanks, Toots! You're absolutely right about what he feels at least from what he's told me. So what my support meant is that I'm going to STFU and not tell him what works for me unless he asks. I'm also supporting him by not stepping in. I should reword the goal so it's clearer.

Our S is incredibly bright, but tomorrow is our first day of referring him for testing for a possibly diagnosis of Asperger's, Sensory Processing Disorder, or Asynchronous development. So that has added some stress to our home as well. It's hard for me to step back with my H when I feel like I want to help my S, but I don't need to help him. My H is a great dad when he's focused on our S.

Thanks for the feedback. With these goals, the house is less tense and we are talking more (about general things not R) and spending a bit more time together.

Thanks again Toots! I really appreciate your input!