Thanks for checking in Toots. I booked a vacation. Going to panama for a couple of weeks. Super excited.
The counseling, I don't know. It seems like W is open to cater me and come. But she fears its to save M. I just suggested it to increase understanding and communication. But I'm not sure if it'll have any benefit at all. I didn't mention it again recently.
I feel like I'm really moving on now. It still hurts of course and I'm somehow bitter about everything but I feel ok. I'm going out with friends. Got tickets to a concert/club next weekend. Vacation is booked. I'm working a lot.
Another thing: I felt like I'm finally able to speak to W about the option of legal separation, due to tax benefits, health insurance etc. She said she's absolutely not opposed to it and she'll think about it. Sounds like she's open. But she started pushing me to get my own bank account and split money. But she's very fair about it and wouldn't even ask for paying my part of the morgage. She's very fair with the money aspect. I can't complain. But it also feels like it's her "power point".
Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15