Hey Luke. Ah, walls...I know all about them. They are my krytonite. Here's what I learned about them. They kept stuff out...but that means they stopped things from getting in.

I can feel your frustration. I get it. You want things to be happening in a certain way that you have in your head. That just isnt how this plays out.

Here's the thing. You can only handle the stuff on your side of the street. Your reactions, your thoughts, your actions. You cant control anyone elses.

But what often happens when we change our reactions, the other person's reactions are different.

Now I am not in any way saying that you arent allowed to feel frustrated or angry. This is hard stuff. But understanding why you are acting in a certain way..goes a long way in changing things.

It gets you angry when she says certain things. Your job is to figure out why it stings. Most of the time, it has to do with our ego.

You seem to get upset when she talks about how much you used to work. You worked as much as you did. Her perception is different from yours about the whys and all. Your feelings are hurt that she never acknowledged what you did for the family.

You feel how you do. She feels as she does. No one's feelings are more important that anyone elses.

That's not to say that one day you shouldnt tell her that it upsets you when she talks like that.

But you need to really figure out why that gets you upset. Does it have to do with your dad? Your mom? Did he work a lot? Not enough?

So, think about what upsets you. Try to figure out why they do and where the hurt is coming from. That goes a long way in changing your feelings and reactions.

Luke, you are trying to move this along quicker than it can. You cant do that....(yea, sorry, your Jedi powers arent strong enough - LOL).

You dont have to make any decisions now. I believe everything plays out the way it is supposed to. We just have to let it.

While she is working through some crappy stuff, I want to acknowledge, though, that it is hurtful stuff for you, too.

I can only imagine how scared she is at the thought of having to say those words to doctors, therapists and a priest at some point.

So, my friend, dig in some more. Try to figure out where the hurt comes from..then figure out how to let it go when you can.