I don't know if you have read the Detachment thread over on the MLC Forum, but I'm putting the link here. I think you would gain more knowledge on how to proceed with conversations and actions if you read the thread.

Here's the link:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2537289#Post2537289


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.