What just happened? Kramer's journey continues

[Kramer]

WTF is wrong with me? I can look at my situation objectively, and know that it is imperative for me to detach, go dark, GAL, and move forward with my life. I know deep down that my wife is temp checking and trying to place me in the friend zone, and yet I keep slipping up. She says that het OM only wants to be friends, and has called her boring and predictable, but I still have no evidence that the affair is over. I am assuming that she may have had an argument or disagreement with him, and that is why she is contacting me more frequently.

And then the other part of my brain says "Wait a second, Kramer. Your wife is being nice and perhaps she is starting to miss you. You don't want to pass up this opportunity". Keep in mind that she has not given any indication that she has had an epiphany and wants to reconcile. That is all made up in my mind.

Latest example: She texts me this morning from the gym and tells me about one of our aquaintances being on "my machine" and that her mother woke her up at 0400 with a rat in the house. I should have just ignored them, but of course I didn't. I made small talk and acted like we were friends. Ugh.

I don't want to be her friend. I want to be her husband. And yet, I keep screwing up. Aargh!