Heartbreak Warfare

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Question about engaging with H. Last night when H came into room to vent about how stressed he is with work, he clearly was coming to me for emotional support. As I said, I listened, sympathized and engaged in conversation. It seemed like the natural thing to do. I acted as friend. I think this is a good thing to help redevelop emotional connection. However, if H is likely still cake-eating this is probably not a good thing, right? It is allowing him to get some needs met by me, so I am allowing to be part of the cycle. He seems to be coming to me more and more in this way and want to make sure I am not exasperating cake eating.

However, if I do not respond he will not come to me to engage and thinks I am mad and we do not have moment of connection. How should I handle these attempts by H to engage if there is active A? This morning I tried to be pleasant, but kept to myself and he asked if I was grumpy. I said no not at all. He seemed thrown off. I am having hard time with being happy, cheerful and engaged with acting as if I am moving on.
Can someone give me advise please.