In need of opinions

[dawgy]

Thank sandi . She last spoke of leaving in late January .Since then I asked her why she hasnt left and she said that shes scared . Affraid its the wrong move but affraid to stay also . I try to give her alot of space but she seems so confused . Im sure she is . I feel pain for her .Shes made a huge mess out of our lives and she knows if she leaves it will continue .So I dont knowe whaT TO TELL HER . i KNOW SHE WANTS ME TO TELL HER TO GO AND EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE .However that wouldnt be the truth .Its a terrible spot to to be in . She could commit to our family again and I know the kids would treat her with love and respect again . But if she leaves both boys have already stated they will disown her .And theres nothing I can do about that . They are 16 and 14 and have minds of their own . I tried to sheild them from the truth and was sucessful for almost a year but she did everything to not not hide it and I just gave up and they found out . Now shes devastated that they dont show love or respect to her anymore . I told her countless times what would happen if the cat got out of the bag but she was so enthralled with her fairy tale love story she didnt care . Now she admits to me it was a fairytale